This is something that applies in and out of the Loli-sphere and apparently needs addressing. How to navigate events that include food and eating when you have dietary restrictions or specific dietary preferences.
First of all, it helps if you have a chill community without too many lolis of the “I subsist on macrons, earl grey and rose petals!” variety. When encountering these individuals I suggest nodding, smiling, and then hoofing it over to the other side of the room where the sane people are.
Second, determine for yourself if people need to know about what you can and can’t eat. I think that if you have allergies it would be irresponsible for you *NOT* to speak up and let the host know. Food preferences pertaining to your general health goals don’t need to be shared, simply avoid what you don’t like. You don’t always have to explain, sometimes a “no thank you” and a smile will do nicely.
Third, make things easy on your host. For example, if you are having a picnic meet or a potluck, mention that you are vegan or keep Kosher (for example) and that you’ll be happy to bring some prepared items both for yourself and some to share. If you are going to attend a catered event, be prepared for the worst and assume that your needs may not be accommodated – consider politely reminding your waiter of your special order once you are seated and before the food arrives, or excusing yourself to have a word with the Maître d’Hotel or Manager if that doesn’t work.
Fourth, avoid awkwardness and be polite. If you happen to be vegan and your table-partner is not, don’t talk about how ham is “gross” … this is unkind. Going on about how you could never give up eating tasty crispy-fried animals to your vegetarian tablemate is rude too. It’s also unlikely that anyone needs to hear graphic descriptions of your gastro-intestinal distresses or a treatise on how avoiding sugar changed your life when the dessert tray comes along.
Fifth, have a good attitude. Really, even if it’s a picnic or a fancy tea the main reason that you are there is to enjoy the company. A poorly prepared hors d'oeuvre does not have to ruin your day, and it really shouldn’t ruin everybody’s good time. There is a fine balance between controlling the situation so that you have a pleasant time and trying to control it to the point that you and your needs are the center of attention. Your *BASIC* needs should be met, all of your expectations may not.
Set yourself up for success by thinking ahead and preparing and controlling what you can control. Remember it’s about the fun, not just the food <3
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